Something I have been thinking about alot lately since our lecture in class is how having children puts stress on a marriage. I always thought that children would make everything better. But now I realize that I will still need to work on my future marriage even after we have children. Brother Williams explained in class that after a couple has a child, marriage satisfaction lowers. "In average the American marriage, marital satisfactions is high until shortly after the birth of the first child, goes down significantly after birth of each child, then levels out before improving as the children leave home." There are a few steps to keeping a marriage strong:
-Plan dates and special time together as soon as possible.
-Express gratitude for the contributions your partner makes.
-Discuss and plan responses to the likely challenges
-Discuss your concerns and worries without being critical of another
These are all things that i want to remember for when i get married. Eventually my future children will grow up and have their own spouse and be sealed to them. So it is important to me that i one day have a strong relationship with my husband becuase he is who i will be spending eternity with.
Saturday, February 23, 2013
Saturday, February 9, 2013
We will not reject you
I know that I have missed a few blogs already but i'm going to try really hard to remember to blog every week.
This week in my family relations class we talked about same sex attraction. This is a subject I have a really hard time understanding. There is a person in my life who is very close to me that struggles with this. This is a subject that I have prayered hours about to help me understand. I still do not think that i have an opinion on what i think. I want to so bad be able to say that i am okay with it. That this person in my life deserves to be happy and not be judged for it. But I know that its not okay. And that hurts.
A quote from Elder Boyd K Packer said "We do not reject you, only immoral behavior. We cannot reject you, for you are the sons and daughter of God. We will not reject you, because we love you." This quote helps me because no matter how confused on the subject I may be, all I really need to know is that I love them.
This week in my family relations class we talked about same sex attraction. This is a subject I have a really hard time understanding. There is a person in my life who is very close to me that struggles with this. This is a subject that I have prayered hours about to help me understand. I still do not think that i have an opinion on what i think. I want to so bad be able to say that i am okay with it. That this person in my life deserves to be happy and not be judged for it. But I know that its not okay. And that hurts.
A quote from Elder Boyd K Packer said "We do not reject you, only immoral behavior. We cannot reject you, for you are the sons and daughter of God. We will not reject you, because we love you." This quote helps me because no matter how confused on the subject I may be, all I really need to know is that I love them.
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